Marsha Linehan – Stop Emotionally Manipulative Relationships Download
- Help clients extricate themselves from emotionally manipulative relationships
- Move clients from other-focused to self-focused
- Stop caretakers’ self-sabotage
- Challenge self-defeating behaviors, reduce anxiety and teach assertive behaviors
- Identify how to help clients extricate themselves from emotionally manipulative relationships.
- Outline how to move clients from other-focused to self-focused.
- Recognize and neutralize the seven dysfunctional rules caretakers use in relationships.
- Recognize the causes of caretaker behavior.
- Illustrate how to coach clients out of the drama triangle of enmeshment with a borderline or narcissist.
- Examine various methods to stop caretaker’s self-sabotage
- Outline the steps to neutralizing the emotional caretaker’s obsession with the borderline or narcissist.
- Communicate to clients how to use attention and awareness to stop being manipulated.
- Discuss the necessary steps to get real change happening in families with a borderline or narcissist.
- 15% or more of clients in therapy are caretakers
- Are caretakers born or raised?
- Strengths and vulnerabilities
- Symbiotic relationship to the borderline or narcissist
- Sense of Self
- Pathological Altruism
- Protesting Colluders
- Cut Offs
- How and why caretakers get drawn into self-defeating relationships
- The persecutor/victim/rescuer connection
- Why caretakers can benefit from therapy and narcissists and borderlines typically don’t
- Ten ways caretakers self-sabotage
- The seven dysfunctional rules caretakers use in relationships
- Caretaker issues of exterior locus of control
- Passivity, fear, guilt and confusion
- How these can sabotage therapy as well as relationships
- Using CBT to confront the core distortions of caretakers
- Why client centered therapy is not as effective
- Dispute the caretaker’s dysfunctional relationship rules
- Move caretakers out of manipulative interactions into assertive interactions
- Repairing client’s sense of self
- Challenging negative self-image thoughts
- Teach the concept of independent SELF
- Develop a clear sense of “I”
- Develop an inner locus of control
- Challenge caretaker’s pathological shame and guilt
- Teach empowered communication techniques
- Coach clients out of the Drama Triangle into the Caring Triangle
- Assertiveness, conscious choice, accepting SELF-responsibility
- Use group therapy to move clients forward more quickly
About the Speaker:
Margalis Fjelstad, Ph.D., LMFT., has had a clinical practice for the past 30 years. She specializes in educating therapists, lawyers, and case workers in the dynamics of relationships that contain a borderline or narcissist.
She has over 150 hours of training in personality disorders and concentrates on working with clients who are in a relationship with a borderline or narcissist. She has conducted over 10,000 hours of counseling with these caretaker clients, led more than 1500 hours of group therapy, and 140 training workshops. As a college professor at California State University, Sacramento, and Regis University in Colorado, she has educated thousands of students in therapeutic techniques and best counseling practices and taught 13,000 hours of graduate classes.